Wednesday, July 31, 2013

Tips on Resolving Arguments with Your Spouse

How to Settle Things in a Positive Way




Decide if it's something that's worth arguing about first. 
In so many instances, couples argue over the most trivial of things, like why one of you keeps forgetting to put the top back on the tube of toothpaste or why the other one keeps hogging the remote, etc., all just stuff not even worth disputing.
If this is the case, it's probably better to simply ignore any aggravation and let things slide. Sometimes, all of us tend to blow the teeniest stuff way out of proportion.

If you do argue, don't say things in the heat of anger that you will regret later.
If you are really ticked off at something your spouse said or did (or didn't say or do), it's easy to blow your stack and mouth off the first things that come to your mind.
Remember, words can never really be taken back after they''ve been said and making wounding remarks can actually worsen your present circumstances.
Name calling, hollering, belittling and zoning in on inadequacies makes a person defensive and he or she will either end up countering with their own spiteful comments or refuse to communicate with you at all.
When you feel the urge to say anything unkind, take a "time out" until you have enough control of your emotions to confront whatever issue you and your spouse are in disagreement about.

Get your point across, without going on longer than is necessary 
You've obviously got something that needs to be said. Try to be as descriptive as possible about what you are upset about.
That doesn't mean you need to take forever-and-a-day to make your point. Repeating and rehashing the same thing again and again is going to end up making the other person frustrated and he or she will end up not even wanting to listen to you.
Be focused, explain your feelings, be brief.
Listen to the other person's point of view
When most of us are having an argument with our spouse, we already think we're the one who is "right."
A fair fight, though, means that you have to be willing to give your "opponent" a chance to offer his or her opinion on the issue one or both of you are angry about.
Really listen to what the other person is saying and try to look at it from his/her perspective.
As much as you like to imagine yourself as always being the wronged party, it's possible that you're the one who is off-track. Listening to your mate's side shows that, even in the midst of a quarrel, you have respect for him/her..

Resist the urge to get in the "last word"
I know that I am inclined to want to get the "last word" in, as though I'm in a contest of some sort that makes me the "winner" if I get in one final dig.
Most couples are temporarily battling for position during a disagreement, but it doesn't help to resolve anything, when either of you is too stubborn to put an end to the bickering.

Sometimes, you have to agree to disagree. 
If either party can change something you are doing to help settle the matter, then make an agreement to do whatever it takes to bring peace between you.
On many occasions, however, you may end up coming to the conclusion that neither of you is "right" or "wrong," but, like all human beings, you are two distinct individuals who just have your own unique perception.
Should that be true, simply agree to disagree and be willing to move forward from there. Compromise is often the best method of handling dissent.

Forgive and ask forgiveness 
Don't hold on to any resentment.
Forgiveness is extremely cleansing. Forgiving your mate means that you don't store away the memory of this argument, only to bring it up again at a later time. In case you've said or done things that may have hurt your spouse, be quick to apologize and ask forgiveness., as well.
Never be too proud to say, "I'm sorry."

Realize that even the most loving couples have conflicts.
Don't think that having a periodic bout of discord means your marriage is in trouble.
Anybody who claims they don't argue from time-to-time is probably in denial, because, fallible creatures that we humans are, we all get ticked off and stubborn some days.
When you and your spouse sincerely love each other, you can get through any disagreement, without it damaging your relationship.
If it does seem like you are fighting more often than you ought to, by all means, find a good counselor and get help to work things out.

Source - http://voices.yahoo.com/tips-resolving-arguments-spouse-99295.html

Tuesday, July 30, 2013

Nutella muffin

Resepi brownies yang amat sedap ini hanya memerlukan tiga bahan iaitu Nutella, tepung gandum dan juga telur. Bagi anda yang teringin makan brownies mudah ni, bolehlah mencuba resepi ini! Ia juga sesuai untuk dihidangkan semasa minum petang ataupun semasa jamuan Aidilfitri nanti!


Bahan-bahan :

1 cawan Nutella

10 sudu tepung ( atau ikut citarasa anda )

2 biji telur



Cara-cara membuat :

1. Campurkan ketiga-tiga bahan di atas.

2. Masukkan ke dalam bekas muffin atau brownies.

3. Masak di dalam ketuhar bersuhu 180 darjah Celcius selama 30 minit ataupun sehingga masak. Nak tahu dia masak ke tak, cucuk brownies dengan garpu ditengah-tengah. Kalau tiada adunan melekat pada garpu, maknanya brownies anda sudahpun masak.

Hidangkan panas-panas begitu sahaja ataupun dimakan bersama aiskrim.

Tips : Anda bole menghias brownies dengan kekacang walnut atau hazelnut ataupun marshmallow.



Will try to bake this very very soon!! *excited*

Tuesday, December 13, 2011

Supermodel Mommies: Victoria's Secret Angels' Diet & Fitness


In light of Victoria's Secret Angel Miranda Kerr's son, Flynn Bloom, being born on (Jan 6th) and Angel Doutzen Kroes' son, Phyllon, being born on just 2 days after (Jan. 21st), I've decided to do a recap of our other favourite VS supermodel mommies as well as their workout & diet regimes (besides chasing after their children of course).
Congrats new mommies!


Here are the diet and fitness tips of Supermodel Mommies: Adriana Lima, Alessandra Ambrosio, Doutzen Kroes, Gisele Bundchen, Heidi Klum, Karolina Kurkova and Miranda Kerr.

Age: 29
Spouse: Marko Jarić (basketball player)
Baby girl: Valentina Lima Jarić (November 15th 2009)

Adriana, like Miranda Kerr, looking obviously fuller in the face as her pregnancy develops- probably because both of these models generally have rounder faces to begin with. Unlike a lot of the other Supermodel mommies who miraculously maintain very slim bodies/faces throughout their pregnancies.
Adriana's diet (since having her child):
About 2 months before an upcoming Victoria's Secret show, Adriana will go on a zero-carbs diet. This means that for lunch and dinner, she'll have grilled or steamed veggies and 4 ounces of any kind of meat at each meal. Throughout the day, every three hours in between meals, Adriana will drink the protein shake Metagenics or eat a cereal bar.
Work-Out Regime:
Adriana hits the gym every single day, for two hours per session. Part of her exercise routine includes boxing and jumping rope.
“Working out should be a part of everybody’s routine,” she says.“I know sometimes you don’t have time — that’s why I love jumping rope, because you can take it with you anywhere and you don’t need to do it, like, one hour. You can do it ten minutes and it’s like 45 minutes of running.”
Age: 29
Fiancé: Jamie Mazur (business man whose company sells designer jeans)
Baby girl: Anja Louise Ambrosio Mazur (August 24th, 2008)
At a photoshoot, just starting to show signs of a bump
Alessandra & Jamie at their baby shower
Alessandra's diet:
According to Alessandra, she enjoys all kinds of food such as Japanese, Thai, chocolate, etc., but the key is portion control. I wonder if that means just one bite of everything....
Work-Out Regime:
Rather than hire a trainer like all of her peers, Alessandra prefers to stay fit through activities/sports such as: volleyball, surfing, roller-blading and snowboarding. She keeps her butt toned by working out with a trainer twice a month, where they engage in the Brazilian Butt-Lift, which incorporates Capoeira, samba and aerobics.
Tips: Alessandra takes Yves Saint Laurent's 'Total Fitness Slimming Gel' with her wherever she goes to keep cellulite at bay
Age: 26
Spouse: Sunnery James (DJ)
Baby boy: Phyllon James (January 21st, 2011)
Like her two colleagues, Adriana and Miranda, Doutzen also has a rounder, soft face. However her face being more oval shaped with less prominent cheekbones, her face doesn't quite get as puffed as the former two. 
Absolutely glowing here, pictured with Chanel Iman.
Doutzen's always been known for her 'curves', and is often under a lot of media scrutiny for the ups and downs of her weight. In fact, Gucci wouldn't hire her because they thought she was TOO curvy:
“I like the Versace show best so far. The collection is really beautiful and at Versace femininity is important. Feminine shapes are allowed. In contrary to Gucci where I got rejected because I was too fat! Gucci likes slim girls only.” – Doutzen Kroes
Doutzen's diet:
Like Alessandra, Doutzen believes in portion control. She indulges in favourite snacks such as cheese, bread and chocolate. However, prior to a Victoria's Secret show Doutzen will go on a strict 'sugar-and-carb-free' diet, as well as bump up her work-outs. Doutzen has publicly made it clear that she is against starvation diets and endorses working out your muscles (though many girls worry about bulking up) because
1. We need healthy nutrients
2. We want to appear toned and muscle helps burn fat (so the more muscle you have, the more calories you burn!)
Work-Out Regime:
Doutzen engages in high-cardio activities such as jumping rope (tones your rear end), boxing, and shadowboxing, as well as strength training.
Age: 30
Spouse: Tom Brady (NFL quarterback for the New England Patriots)
Baby boy: Benjamin Rein Brady (December 8th, 2009)
What a beautiful baby bump!
Still very lean as you can see
Gisele's diet:
From what I can gather it seems that Gisele doesn't have a diet she follows and is another Victoria's Secret Angels advocate for portion control. In fact, she even frequently eats meat and her favourite food: cheeseburgers. Funnily enough, Gisele was discovered by an agent at a McDonald's.
Here is her once-known diet plan-
Breakfast: 2 slices of skimmed cheese, toasted bread wholewheat, 1 fruit
Midmorning snack: 3 cookies, 1 slice of turkey, 1 fruit.
Lunch: 2 thighs of chicken, 1 portion of rice, lettuce, fruit and 1 spoon of olive oil.
Snacks: 1 cookie, 2 slices of skimmed cheese, 1 fruit
Dinner: 1 fish fillet, salad with tomato, 1 spoon of olive oil,1 fruit.
Her tip: To lose baby weight, don't gain it in the first place! While pregnant, eat healthily, meditate and do light exercises
Tip 2: Gisele adds Cayenne pepper to a lot of the foods she eats to raise her metabolism
Work-Out Regime
To tone up Gisele's routine includes strength and circuit training, and weights. Gisele spends 15 minutes each day to do stretches and flexibility exercises before her work-outs. She also stays active by jogging and keeps things interesting by playing soccer and volleyball, she usually exercises about 45 to 60 minutes every day. Gisele also practices yoga three times a week to meditate, stay fit and control her over-compulsive eating habits.
Age: 37
Spouse: Seal (singer)
Children: Helena Leni Klum (May 4th 2004), Henry Gunther Ademola Dashtu Samuel (September 15, 2005), Johan Riley Fyodor Taiwo Samuel (November 22, 2006) and daughter Lou Sulola Samuel (October 9, 2009)
Heidi's diet:
Low-carb diet
Breakfast: 180 calorie protein shake, and at 10 a.m. a 4-egg-white omelet with veggies
Lunch: Broccoli sautéed in a teaspoon of olive oil, skinless chicken and salad
4 p.m. snack: 10 to 12 raw almonds
Dinner: either, another protein shake or a small meal like turkey chili
Absolutely no: corn, pasta, bread, sausages etc. you get the idea, carbs and processed foods
Work-Out Regime:
Two workout sessions per day.
Heidi spent mornings doing lunges, core-strength exercises, yoga and shadowboxing. In the afternoons she focused more on core work and cardio, such as 45 minutes on an inclined treadmill or elliptical trainer. For more 'leisurely' exercises, she went hiking with her trainer.
She lost 2 inches off her waist in the first couple of days (probably all water weight).
Age: 26
Spouse: Archie Drury (film producer)
Baby boy: Tobin Jack Drury (October 29th, 2009)
Looking radiant in these lovely choices of evening gowns.
At Sao Paolo Fashion Week where she got a lot of critics bashing her "chubby" body, commenting on things such as her cellulite and flabby tummy. Karolina admitted herself it was hard to get back in shape.
Karolina's diet & workout in her own words:
On losing the baby weight: "I didn't gain much weight, and I think the secret was really staying active throughout my pregnancy. I did Pilates, a lot of weight training, I walked a lot and I traveled. I lived my life, you know?"
On her pregnancy diet: "I was eating really healthy, taking good supplements and vitamins, drinking green juices and just making sure I was putting the best stuff in my body. I didn't eat much junk, and I was lucky I didn't really crave it, either. So I'm all about listening to your body. But obviously you want to try to give it more natural foods, and fruits, good vitamins, fish oils, fiber. Lots of fiber when you're pregnant!"
On working with Tracy Anderson: "I wanted to try something different. I didn't want to be in the gym doing weights. And I like Tracy. She's a working mom like me and she understands that, and understands a woman's body. It's been really fun . . . it's a bit of a mishmash of everything. A little ballet, a lot of dancing, funk cardio. As a woman, where else can you go and listen to fast music and really dance? Especially after you have a baby, it's not like you have a lot of time to go dance! So it's a great place to just go and be, and feel good, feel sexy and sweat."
On what she eats now: "We still do a lot of fresh green fruit juices, and try to cook as much as we can so that everything's light, delicious and gluten-free. We don't really eat anything that's white, or processed. And we try to buy things from little farms and local places to support those businesses. I'm a big believer in that."
Age: 27
Spouse: Orlando Bloom (actor)
Baby boy: Flynn Bloom (January 6th, 2011)
First photograph released of Miranda and Flynn, picture taken by Orlando Bloom.
What Miranda writes on her website Kora Organics:
"We are so happy, he is our little ray of sunshine. He weighed 9lb 12oz (a very healthy and big baby boy). I gave birth to him naturally; without any pain medication and it was a long, arduous and difficult labour, but Orlando was with me the whole time supporting and guiding me through it. I could not have done it without him."
Miranda's diet:
Miranda is also an advocate on portion control, she enjoys Lindt's dark chocolate balls, however she is also a very health-conscious person. She only eats healthy, organic foods- well, look at her site's name!
Her typical daily diet includes-
Breakfast: Fresh fruit salad with yogurt and muesli 2 Rye toasts with avocado and boiled eggs
Water with lemon and ginger
Cup of green tea
Midmorning snack: Almonds, pecans, walnuts
Lunch: Fresh tuna salad
Water with lemon
Dandelion tea
Afternoon snack: Nuts or a piece of fruit
Dinner: “Either a salmon steak or other fish or Lamb Loin chops or a piece of steak with vegetables or salad.  I don’t eat a lot of potato, but I eat heaps of greens and sweet potato and pumpkin roasted.”
Green tea with ginger
Her secret: Tahitian Noni juice
Work-Out Regime:
A firm advocate and believer of yoga. She also works out with personal trainer Justin Gelband, who has Miranda regularly running, boxing, and practicing Pilates and yoga  Miranda has said that she would prefer to just do Yoga, which she enjoys the benefit of meditating while working out all at once.

I love Victoria's Secret and their yummy mummies.

Hope you've enjoyed these Supermodel diets & exercises!

Source : sundaylovexo